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I am getting married in October 2009 and I am a plus size bride. I have found the dress that I am absolutely in love with (I hate bridal shops) http://www.kiyonna.com/12060909-p-Bridal_Dresses.html?sblid=12060909
My question is, I would like to lose a few pounds before my wedding, but I want to order my dress now so I know I have it and dont have to worry about it going discontinued on me or something. I dont want to order it in any size that is too small for me now, I want to order what fits me now, even if i lose some weight later. Will this dress be easy enough for a seamstress to take in, if I shrink a size or two? I dont think theres any beads or anything like that, its just fabric with lace over it. Please only answer if you actually know the answer to this question or have an idea.
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It can be taken in, as far as easy for a seamstress it depends on her skills. (or his) It will cost you a pretty penny to have it altered. Your best bet is to buy it take it to a seamstress and ask her how much to do the alterations. If you're willing to pay the additional cost go for it. If not take it back to the store within your return period. Alterations can cost anywhere from 200-1000 depending on what is being done. (Also if you lose too much weight, no matter how skilled the seamstress she will ultimately be sewing the dress from scratch and the dress will end up costing you double.)
It can be taken in, as far as easy for a seamstress it depends on her skills. (or his) It will cost you a pretty penny to have it altered. Your best bet is to buy it take it to a seamstress and ask her how much to do the alterations. If you're willing to pay the additional cost go for it. If not take it back to the store within your return period. Alterations can cost anywhere from 200-1000 depending on what is being done. (Also if you lose too much weight, no matter how skilled the seamstress she will ultimately be sewing the dress from scratch and the dress will end up costing you double.)
My fiances mother emailed me a link to a plus sized wedding dress. Thoughtful or Rude?
Q. Ive been with my fiance for 3 years now & we were in the middle of planning a wedding when I just found out 4 weeks ago that Im pregnant. We told our parents & they were happy & surprised. My fiance & I discussed whether or not we will have a little quick wedding with just us before the baby is born or have the baby & proceed with our original wedding as planned sometime when we can afford a bigger wedding. But, here is the thing - we havent discussed any of this with my fiances mother, just the baby news & me being pregnant. So, as far as she knows, we never said we were going to go get married right now. I feel like she is the religious type who wont say so, but thinks down on us having a baby out of wedlock (hello! it's 2009!! times have changed!) and I checked my email tonight & she sent me a link to a plus sized wedding gown that she said "she thought I would look beautiful in" Half of me is like thanks for thinking of me, but the other half is offended because is she trying to hint for us to get married right now? And Im only 8 weeks pregnant so Im not that plus sized, that was a little ballsy of her as well. I just feel like we are grown adults, he's 32 & Im 29 & we can make our own decisions. What do you all think of her doing this? Thoughtful or rude??
To Belle Esprit:
I personally have never cared about whether or not someone had a child out of wedlock, it's their business & wouldnt judge a person over it. There are bigger things in this world to deal with. And, with divorce rates so high, I dont think people should get married because they had a child either. I think having a child is a blessing and that should be the main focus. It sounds petty & immature that you have resented your parents for their decisions. Be appreciative to be alive & healthy!
I dont resent my future mother in law. I know she is a nice person, but I can tell that she is thinking without coming out & saying it, that we should be married before the baby is born & this was her way of saying it without saying it.
The thing that annoys me is that my fiance & I never said we were going to get married anytime soon. Our original wedding was planned for Aug 2010. The fact that she assumes that we are going to do what she thinks is the "right thing to do" is pushy & judgemental. There are no rules to having a child & getting married later when we can have a nice wedding & I lose baby weight, plus have our child in the wedding. Its ultimately OUR decision to do whats right for us & the baby. This isnt Leave it to Beaver days where its uncommon to have a child out of wedlock. And, if I wanted a maternity wedding dress, I can look for one myself in the style that I would actually wear, not something ugly.
To Belle Esprit:
I personally have never cared about whether or not someone had a child out of wedlock, it's their business & wouldnt judge a person over it. There are bigger things in this world to deal with. And, with divorce rates so high, I dont think people should get married because they had a child either. I think having a child is a blessing and that should be the main focus. It sounds petty & immature that you have resented your parents for their decisions. Be appreciative to be alive & healthy!
I dont resent my future mother in law. I know she is a nice person, but I can tell that she is thinking without coming out & saying it, that we should be married before the baby is born & this was her way of saying it without saying it.
The thing that annoys me is that my fiance & I never said we were going to get married anytime soon. Our original wedding was planned for Aug 2010. The fact that she assumes that we are going to do what she thinks is the "right thing to do" is pushy & judgemental. There are no rules to having a child & getting married later when we can have a nice wedding & I lose baby weight, plus have our child in the wedding. Its ultimately OUR decision to do whats right for us & the baby. This isnt Leave it to Beaver days where its uncommon to have a child out of wedlock. And, if I wanted a maternity wedding dress, I can look for one myself in the style that I would actually wear, not something ugly.
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it is so not shameful to have a baby before marriage. im 9 months pregnant and my fiance and i plan on a destination wedding when im tan and thin again. back to your question- i do think she was being a bit rude- how does she know u didnt speed up the wedding? u probably wont show til your 6 months! (if youre anything like me) so to send you a plus size... wow! even if i was getting married today a plus size dress would be far too big- i would just go up a few sizes and alter it in my belly... but say thanks and then send her a suggestion on what she should wear to the wedding that is way too old for her :) teeheehee
it is so not shameful to have a baby before marriage. im 9 months pregnant and my fiance and i plan on a destination wedding when im tan and thin again. back to your question- i do think she was being a bit rude- how does she know u didnt speed up the wedding? u probably wont show til your 6 months! (if youre anything like me) so to send you a plus size... wow! even if i was getting married today a plus size dress would be far too big- i would just go up a few sizes and alter it in my belly... but say thanks and then send her a suggestion on what she should wear to the wedding that is way too old for her :) teeheehee
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