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Is it ok to where a white dress after getting marred the 3rd time around? I know it used to be, that a person could not do that, becuase the dress means purity and being a virgin. but now days I have known others to where white again. But is that proper?
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Traditionally, white was meant to symbolize purity. This meant that in previous eras a woman could not wear a white wedding dress if she was "unpure," i.e. not a virgin. However, times have drastically changed, and the symbolism behind this color has faded. Nowadays, you can wear white, off-white, peach, red, and almost any other color (there is still a big no-no towards black, however, which is still strongly esteemed as the color of death or of mourning). It is completely within the realm of etiquette to wear a white wedding dress, even for a third marriage. Everyone should respect that it is your day and that it is your desire to wear white- after all, it is only a color. If someone has the audacity to mention your choice of color, simply sit him or her down and explain the symbolism of the color white. Tell him or her that the color white, to you, represents purity, and, on your wedding day, you hope to convey the symbolism of the purity of your love to your future husband with the color white, and it is not intended to be symbolic of the purity of your body. You are in now way being improper by desiring to wear white!
Traditionally, white was meant to symbolize purity. This meant that in previous eras a woman could not wear a white wedding dress if she was "unpure," i.e. not a virgin. However, times have drastically changed, and the symbolism behind this color has faded. Nowadays, you can wear white, off-white, peach, red, and almost any other color (there is still a big no-no towards black, however, which is still strongly esteemed as the color of death or of mourning). It is completely within the realm of etiquette to wear a white wedding dress, even for a third marriage. Everyone should respect that it is your day and that it is your desire to wear white- after all, it is only a color. If someone has the audacity to mention your choice of color, simply sit him or her down and explain the symbolism of the color white. Tell him or her that the color white, to you, represents purity, and, on your wedding day, you hope to convey the symbolism of the purity of your love to your future husband with the color white, and it is not intended to be symbolic of the purity of your body. You are in now way being improper by desiring to wear white!
does the color of the dress even matter?
miss etats
im not engaged but i love thinking about weddings and all that kind of stuff..ive been with my bf for 3 and a half years and i lost my virginity to him. we plan on getting married and everything but i was just wondering what you guys think about the color of the wedding dress? he says i should be doing the off white color since im not a virgin anymore, (we are catholic by the way) but i have ALWAYS wanted a white dress..not because it shows purity but because i think white dresses are beautiful and thats just the style i want. we might get married in a church but does that kind of thing even matter anymore? or is this old school thinking?
thanks for all the responses so quickly, but the last couple of ones make it sound like my bf is DEMANDING i dont wear white, this is DEF. not the case! he just thinks itd be a good idea to not wear white but he totally wants me to choose :)
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Today anyone can wear the color they want. Have been to 4 weddings this year. One wore pink, one wore black with white trim and the other two wore pure white and one was 7 months along. Sometimes if you get married in the Catholic church the priest who does the ceremony will demand you wear a white dress, so check with yours and see what he says. Then tell him what your BF says and ask him to talk to the BF about it.
If your BF is demanding that you wear an off white dress because you are no longer a virgin, ask him why in heck he wants everyone else to know you aren't? Unless he has told everyone he knows about your losing your virginity to him, it's no ones business except him, you and the priest.
If you aren't getting married in a church your dress can be any way and color you want. Long or short, white or green, fancy or plain. A bride gets to pick her dress and she is the one who will wear it and either her or her family will pay for it. My Mom got married in 1933 and defied everyone in both families by wearing a long,dark green satin dress. She said she saw it, fell in love with it and felt she looked fantastic in it so that was her choice because it was the same color as a 4 leaf clover and she wanted luck for their marriage. It looks wonderful in their wedding pictures and they lasted 60 years. So, dear girl, it's completely up to you. Good luck and here's hope that your life is long and happy too.
Today anyone can wear the color they want. Have been to 4 weddings this year. One wore pink, one wore black with white trim and the other two wore pure white and one was 7 months along. Sometimes if you get married in the Catholic church the priest who does the ceremony will demand you wear a white dress, so check with yours and see what he says. Then tell him what your BF says and ask him to talk to the BF about it.
If your BF is demanding that you wear an off white dress because you are no longer a virgin, ask him why in heck he wants everyone else to know you aren't? Unless he has told everyone he knows about your losing your virginity to him, it's no ones business except him, you and the priest.
If you aren't getting married in a church your dress can be any way and color you want. Long or short, white or green, fancy or plain. A bride gets to pick her dress and she is the one who will wear it and either her or her family will pay for it. My Mom got married in 1933 and defied everyone in both families by wearing a long,dark green satin dress. She said she saw it, fell in love with it and felt she looked fantastic in it so that was her choice because it was the same color as a 4 leaf clover and she wanted luck for their marriage. It looks wonderful in their wedding pictures and they lasted 60 years. So, dear girl, it's completely up to you. Good luck and here's hope that your life is long and happy too.
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