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With chemo bankrupting me a bit ago, I only us want to spend about $4000 on my wedding. (It's my fiance and I financing it, and we are in our 30's) I have always dreamed of eloping- to me it seems so much more romantic, and I have never wanted to walk down the aisle in a big white frock of a gown. I would feel like I was on stage in a play. However, now that the time has come, I do want to have family and close friends there. I would consider myself a hippie born many years too late as I would prefer to get married outdoors in a breezy dress. Is there anyway to pull off something casual like this without looking tacky? There's a fine line between cool and tacky or cheap. Any ideas, or am I doomed?
Answer
Love you story. Congratulations!! I will let you know how to avoid a tacky wedding.
-Avoid orange self tanners, Gross
-Avoid long cathedral lenght dresses, princess dresses, pooffy sleeves and pick-up style dresses are dated, tacky and in horrible taste.
-Avoid the "princess" cinderalla theme altogether. Grown women have no bussiness having emasculating ridiculous themes on their wedding.
-Do not wear a tiara unles syou are five years old or the queen of England.
-Long veils are a thig of the past.
-Cake toppers (yes! those horrible dolls on top of the cake) they are horribly tacky and PASSE. Whaetver you do, do not have voodoo dolls on your wedding cake.
-Please, I beg you, do not use those corny wedding bells, They are a waste of money and it's not 1960 anymore. No one ever takes tham or ring them, so save your money. Tacky, tacky.
-Skip those tacky goldfish centerpieces. No one wants dead animals on ytheur reception.
-All brides, be aware that noone uses those horrible disposable cameras with bridal themes anymore. Digital baby!
-The garter toss is in bad taste and horribly tacky. Please do not do this.
-An overbloated wedding party is in poor taste. More than 4 bridemaids is TOO much already
-Limos are a thing of the past (and the eighties)
-Flower girls and page boys are a dissapearing trend, not tacky per se, but modern brides skip this so called tradition.
-NO UNITY CANDLE... you don't have to have that horrible looking useless thing. yikes
-For the love of Pete, do noy have one of those terrible looking feather pens with matching guest book. There are so many out-of-the boz alternatives.
-Skip the "never seen before" candied jordan almonds and the stupid tulle circles... puag!
-Please, do not ask their guest to pay for their own meal. Have the weddin that you can afford, but entretain yoru guests in a gracious manner.
ANT THE TACKIEST OF ALL
Money dances, money purses, wishing wells and any other scam to cash things out of your guest are in horrible taste and should be avoided. And whatever you do, do not write on aper or worse, your invitation, registry information or cash request... AWFULLY tacky.
Well, I think that I covered all. Good luck and congratulations
For lovely dresses on a budget, David's Bridal has a $99.00 gown sale. i got mine there is is gorgeous for my destination wedding:
www.davidsbridal.com
Unexpensive, exquisite invitations (manufacturer)
www.lcipaper.com
Flowers and Cake
Go to a suppermarket floris! Stop and Shop, Giant etc. have trained florist and you do not have to pay the overhead costs.
Supermarket bakeries have a catalog of wedding desings that have nothing to envy those of professional bakers. Unexpensive alternative that looks the part and no one will know.
To have a budget-friendly wedding, keep your guest list SHORT. Rule of thumb is to invite inmediate family memmebrs and close friends only. basically, you Christmas card list. If you haven't seen/talked to one person in one year, then you shouldn't invite them. Acquantainces, neighbors and co-workers should be avoided to keep things simple and small and under control.
You are nor doomed! You can do this! Good luck!
Love you story. Congratulations!! I will let you know how to avoid a tacky wedding.
-Avoid orange self tanners, Gross
-Avoid long cathedral lenght dresses, princess dresses, pooffy sleeves and pick-up style dresses are dated, tacky and in horrible taste.
-Avoid the "princess" cinderalla theme altogether. Grown women have no bussiness having emasculating ridiculous themes on their wedding.
-Do not wear a tiara unles syou are five years old or the queen of England.
-Long veils are a thig of the past.
-Cake toppers (yes! those horrible dolls on top of the cake) they are horribly tacky and PASSE. Whaetver you do, do not have voodoo dolls on your wedding cake.
-Please, I beg you, do not use those corny wedding bells, They are a waste of money and it's not 1960 anymore. No one ever takes tham or ring them, so save your money. Tacky, tacky.
-Skip those tacky goldfish centerpieces. No one wants dead animals on ytheur reception.
-All brides, be aware that noone uses those horrible disposable cameras with bridal themes anymore. Digital baby!
-The garter toss is in bad taste and horribly tacky. Please do not do this.
-An overbloated wedding party is in poor taste. More than 4 bridemaids is TOO much already
-Limos are a thing of the past (and the eighties)
-Flower girls and page boys are a dissapearing trend, not tacky per se, but modern brides skip this so called tradition.
-NO UNITY CANDLE... you don't have to have that horrible looking useless thing. yikes
-For the love of Pete, do noy have one of those terrible looking feather pens with matching guest book. There are so many out-of-the boz alternatives.
-Skip the "never seen before" candied jordan almonds and the stupid tulle circles... puag!
-Please, do not ask their guest to pay for their own meal. Have the weddin that you can afford, but entretain yoru guests in a gracious manner.
ANT THE TACKIEST OF ALL
Money dances, money purses, wishing wells and any other scam to cash things out of your guest are in horrible taste and should be avoided. And whatever you do, do not write on aper or worse, your invitation, registry information or cash request... AWFULLY tacky.
Well, I think that I covered all. Good luck and congratulations
For lovely dresses on a budget, David's Bridal has a $99.00 gown sale. i got mine there is is gorgeous for my destination wedding:
www.davidsbridal.com
Unexpensive, exquisite invitations (manufacturer)
www.lcipaper.com
Flowers and Cake
Go to a suppermarket floris! Stop and Shop, Giant etc. have trained florist and you do not have to pay the overhead costs.
Supermarket bakeries have a catalog of wedding desings that have nothing to envy those of professional bakers. Unexpensive alternative that looks the part and no one will know.
To have a budget-friendly wedding, keep your guest list SHORT. Rule of thumb is to invite inmediate family memmebrs and close friends only. basically, you Christmas card list. If you haven't seen/talked to one person in one year, then you shouldn't invite them. Acquantainces, neighbors and co-workers should be avoided to keep things simple and small and under control.
You are nor doomed! You can do this! Good luck!
Wedding help please!?
First
Me and my fiance are planning on getting married soon. I ordered our rings yesterday. Anytime I have to get up in front of people I turned cherry red and get very embarrassed. I was wanting to try to have a very small church wedding and I have very little money. I really need some help with some questions?
1. Any ideas so I won't turn cherry red?
2. Anything to help me stop being so nervous and shakey?
3. How much does a small wedding usually cost?
4. What are all of the vows during the wedding and any sites where I can look at some of them?
5. What are the basic things needed for a small wedding?
Answer
1.) I do not know how to stop from turning red, but during times of expected anxiety I have learned that doing breathing exercises is a very effective way to stay calm. Really. Moments prior to walking down the aisle, take a deep, slow breath through your nose and exhale, slowly through your mouth. Do this for the moments prior to your aisle entrance. Remember, do this slowly, so give your self time. Rushing will cause you to get light headed. Stay in control and concentrate on the breathing. The reason this works is because it brings extra oxygen into the blood stream and the brain, causing a calming effect and acute awareness.
2) refer to #1 as this will also help your nerves/shaking.
3) Wedding costs are subjective. You could do a low budget wedding and just pay the church fees, wear a $99.00 David's Bridal gown, and have a pot luck barbecue in your back yard. Or, you could have a grand reception for the price of a luxury car. Know this: you can work with ANY budget.
4) I am sure if you do a google search on "wedding vows" you can come up with many, many ideas. Because you get nervous in front of people, it may be a good idea for your officiant or clergy member to recite your vows and you repeat after him. This way your vows will be heard by the witnesses and you can just repeat them without having a loss for words.
5) Basic things for a small wedding: Dress, your flowers, one attendant with flowers for you. Tux or suit, a bootineer, a best man with bootineer for him. Invitations. A place for a reception (a park, someones yard or house), food (substantial appetizers), refreshments (keg beer and or wine, juice, soda and ice water) cake (Walmart/Super market). You can get decent plastic plates and napkins at the dollar store or a wholesale place on line or a warehouse shopping club.
Getting married need not cost thousands upon thousand of dollars. I have had huge parties that were wedding reception quality for only $500.00.
1.) I do not know how to stop from turning red, but during times of expected anxiety I have learned that doing breathing exercises is a very effective way to stay calm. Really. Moments prior to walking down the aisle, take a deep, slow breath through your nose and exhale, slowly through your mouth. Do this for the moments prior to your aisle entrance. Remember, do this slowly, so give your self time. Rushing will cause you to get light headed. Stay in control and concentrate on the breathing. The reason this works is because it brings extra oxygen into the blood stream and the brain, causing a calming effect and acute awareness.
2) refer to #1 as this will also help your nerves/shaking.
3) Wedding costs are subjective. You could do a low budget wedding and just pay the church fees, wear a $99.00 David's Bridal gown, and have a pot luck barbecue in your back yard. Or, you could have a grand reception for the price of a luxury car. Know this: you can work with ANY budget.
4) I am sure if you do a google search on "wedding vows" you can come up with many, many ideas. Because you get nervous in front of people, it may be a good idea for your officiant or clergy member to recite your vows and you repeat after him. This way your vows will be heard by the witnesses and you can just repeat them without having a loss for words.
5) Basic things for a small wedding: Dress, your flowers, one attendant with flowers for you. Tux or suit, a bootineer, a best man with bootineer for him. Invitations. A place for a reception (a park, someones yard or house), food (substantial appetizers), refreshments (keg beer and or wine, juice, soda and ice water) cake (Walmart/Super market). You can get decent plastic plates and napkins at the dollar store or a wholesale place on line or a warehouse shopping club.
Getting married need not cost thousands upon thousand of dollars. I have had huge parties that were wedding reception quality for only $500.00.
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